Have you made your new year’s resolutions yet? Instead of thinking about what you should do, maybe think about what you shouldn’t.

Blogger, book author, and life coach Marc Chernoff makes these suggestions about what you should give up for a happier life:

1. Busyness. Schedule time every day to not be busy. Have dedicated downtime to reflect, rest, and recharge.
2. Thinking the perfect time will come. Don’t waste your days waiting for better ones ahead. Appreciate where you are, and be thankful for the lessons you are learning, even if that involves struggles.
3. Needless drama. You don’t need to participate in every argument you’re invited to. Value your peace of mind and healthy relationships, and walk away from situations that threaten your morals and self-worth.
4. The desire for everything you don’t have. You don’t have everything you want—but remember that lots of people will never have what you have right now. Happiness never comes to those who don’t appreciate what they already have, so choose gratitude.
5. Worrying about the past. It’s okay to mess up—that’s how you get wiser. Let mistakes be your motivation, not your excuses. Don’t obsess over who you were or what you had in the past—you’re always growing and changing. That’s a good thing!
6. Worrying about what everyone thinks and says about you. You can’t change how people treat you or what they say about you. You can only choose how you react and who you choose to be around. You don’t have to like everyone, and everyone doesn’t have to like you.
7. A life path that doesn’t feel rewarding. Life is to be enjoyed, not endured. Success will come when you believe in what you’re doing and put your heart and soul into it. Better to be tired from effort and learning than to be tired of doing nothing.
8. Second-guessing. Just do the best you can and don’t force what’s not yet supposed to fit into your life. It will happen when it’s time. Just focus on taking the next small step in what you see as the right direction.
9. Negative attitudes. Let go of resentment, and treat everyone with kindness and respect, even those who are rude to you. Kindness makes life happier and more fulfilling. Don’t resist what you don’t understand and try to build friendships with people who are different from you in age, social class, nationality, etc., to keep your mind open and learning.
10. Controlling the uncontrollable. The most powerful changes happen when you take control over what you do have power over, instead of craving control over what you don’t.

For more advice on what else to give up, read “20 Things You Need to Stop Wasting Your Time On.”